ASSERTIVENESS ASSESSMENT

Answer the following with Yes or No:

  1. Do you buy things you do not really want because it is difficult to say no to the salesman?
  2. Do you hesitate to return items to a store even when there is a good reason to do so?
  3. If someone talks aloud during a movie, play or concert, can you ask him to be quiet?
  4. Can You Begin a conversation with a stranger?
  5. Do you have trouble maintaining conversations in social situations?
  6. Do people act as if they find you boring?
  7. Are you satisfied with your social life?
  8. When a friend/relative makes an unreasonable request, are you able to refuse?
  9. Can you ask favors or make a request to your friends?
  10. Can you criticize a friend?
  11. Can you praise a friend?
  12. When someone compliments you, do you know what to say?
  13. Is there someone with whom you can share your intimate feelings?
  14. Would you rather bottle up your feelings than make a scene?
  15. Are you satisfied with your work habits?
  16. Do people tend to exploit you or push you around?
  17. Can you be open and frank in expressing both tender and angry feelings to women?
  18. Do you find it difficult to make or accept proposals?
  19. Are you satisfied with the progress in your career?
  20. Do you find it difficult to upbraid a subordinate?
  21. Are you (or would you be) a good model of assertiveness for your own child?

 

Any "YES" answer shows that you have difficulty in asserting yourself. Explain your difficulties in your own words. See in what category your behavior falls (aggressive, passive or assertive)

See the Following Example:

One-Year Ago: Mr. borrowed Dh.2000 from you. He was out of job, his wife was hospitalized. After that, he had been avoiding you. Now he has a good salaried job, his wife is also working .You need your money back badly but has done nothing about it. Every day you feel frustrated.

Reaction:

Passive: Whenever you meet with X you talk vaguely about daily expenses, thinking that he will get the hint.
Aggressive: You confront him, abusing him verbally/physically. You call him names like cheat etc.
Assertive: You openly tell him:"X, I would like you to repay the money you owe me. I need it now and I now that you are in a position to pay it back" You discuss how he can pay it back: as a whole or in installments

 

Take up assertiveness assignments and practice being assertive in similar situations

 

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